✅ 1. Always Get *Consent* First

Not every dog wants to be petted—and that’s okay. Always start by letting the dog approach you. Offer a relaxed hand at their side. If they lean in or sniff, that’s their “yes.” If they hesitate or move away, respect their choice.

👋 2. Use the “Pet–Pause” Method

Once the dog seems open, give a gentle stroke in a calming area (under the chin or on the chest). Then pause. Let the dog respond—if they lean in or nudge you, they’re asking for more. If they stiffen or pull away, respect their boundary.

🧭 3. Best Spots to Pet

Dogs often enjoy being touched:

• ✔️ Under the chin – calming and non-threatening
• ✔️ Chest – steady petting builds trust
• ✔️ Base of the tail – many dogs love this gentle rub
• ✔️ Shoulders and upper back – soothing when done gently

Massage gently from neck toward the tail using long strokes—avoid rubbing against fur direction.

🚫 4. Areas to Approach Cautiously

Some spots may be sensitive and should be avoided until trust is built:

• ❌ Top of the head (initially)
• ❌ Ears, paws, tail, lower legs
• ❌ Belly—only after you’re certain they enjoy it

👀 5. Watch Their Body Language

Dogs use calming signals to communicate. Watch for lip licking, yawning, head turns, or tail tucks—these indicate you're overwhelming them. Happy signs include wagging tail (relaxed), leaning in, soft gaze, and nudging you for more.

🤗 6. Bonding Through Scratches & Rubs

Gentle ear rubs, chest scratches, and back massages (neck to tail) build trust and release feel-good hormones—3–5 minutes is plenty per session.

🎯 7. Enhance the Experience

• 🧩 Combine petting with gentle play or obedience games to strengthen your bond
• 🍖 Offer a treat after petting—creates a positive association
• 🕒 Keep sessions short—drained dogs may not want prolonged petting

🧸 Ask A Vet, 

• 🩺 Ask A Vet: Guidance on petting sensitive or recovering dogs, respecting behavior cues

📅 Daily Petting Routine

🎯 Final Takeaway

Petting isn’t just affection—it’s communication. Ask first, follow your dog’s lead, pet in the right places, watch their signals, and combine with treats or play to build a deep, respectful bond 🐾.

— Dr Duncan Houston, BVSc

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